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Old Feb 11, 2010, 09:34 PM
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Originally Posted by _Sky View Post

Please don't judge all therapists based upon one experience!
With regards to the guy, I wonder where the love is.
No one deserves to be treated like he did you, and from just what you said, he does appear to be abusive. The pattern of being controlling and abusive, and then loving and contrite only to become abusive and controlling again will not change. It may even become worse after deployment.
Try and find a normal life for yourself during this time of his being away. It could be you can realize what a really good relationship is like.

People tend to accept only the amount of love they think they deserve ... but even without knowing you, I suggest you deserve better.

he needs help. he is pretty alone right now, and the other side of his family is now trying to be there for him and help him through things, and hopefully then he will be willing to get help. i've been in other relationships, i've been treated well, and he normally does treat me well. this is the worst he has done and only after he found out about deployment. he has major issues surrounding deployment, especially about being cheated on or left. he's a good man and i love him.

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Originally Posted by jennaorgana View Post
my ex fiance was a marine. every time he was on deployment he acted like i was the queen of his world. when he came home all he would do is drink and cheat. awesome.

anyways, hugs from me, doll. and wow, she told you you should change al those htings about yourself, including where you live?!?! thats intense.
that's awful i think being cheated on would hurt the most. as far as i know he has never cheated one me, he's more paranoid about being cheated on because he so desperately wanted to be my one and only, and he was and still is.

yeah she told me i had to change absolutely everything about myself and move. she came up to me today to ask how i was when i was waiting to see my doc for my meds, and i just wanted to tell her to go the hell away.
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