I'm sorry that you are going through such a tough time right now. I hope that it gets better for you. But those words would set me off too - I'm in the same shoes you are. I'm not able to work do to my sever manic depression (aka being severly bi-polar). I have things planned out for super - but there are things I can't do and he really doesn't want me doing - which is grilling.... If your looking for a good diasaster, ask me to grill you something!! The first time my husband told me that he shouldn't have to fix supper after working all day, I cried for almost two to three days... It put me in a deep depression that took months to crawl out of. I understand that words hurt - and they don't realize that to us they are more than just words. I hope that you were able to salvage the rest of the day and evening.
I understand what you are saying and if you would like to talk you can PM me anytime. I'm almost always on PC checking it out... I have long lonely days and PC fills the void in my life at this time.