belle, i'm so sorry for all you have gone thru with this guy. i read your threads recently and it sounds very painful, but i think you are handling it quite well now. it may just be harder on you to be friends with him on fb. you might be too tempted to keep up with all that is happening with him and this chick and that would just be hurting you and prevent you from moving on. of course it is going to take time to get over such a long term relationship.

i agree with the others that you need to treat yourself better. i think you may be letting people get away with too much and sadly that contributes to people mistreating you. if someone got in my fb email i would definitely break off the friendship or at least really confront them on it. that is just rude and disrespectful and they need to earn your trust back. they need to prove to you that they are now trustworthy. please don't let people walk all over you because the sad truth is they will if you let them.