It might be risky to make him feel ganged up on. If he is feeling badly about your relationship, his pulling back or anything, it's more likely to make him very defensive and make him feel he has noone to go to.
Yes! Tell them what an idgit they have working for them as a counselor! All of us can overhaul they way we think, but her attitude and refusla to listen betrays her as the one who should take the first plunge. My word! Silly councillor!
As you have already heard, you need another therapist. That was going through my head before i finished the first paragraph in your post. Stand your ground! HUggs.