'Your birthday has nothing to do with therapy.'

you know...the rules probably mention that t's should not offer gifts to their patients as well...

gotta tell you...an important part of my therapy is healing from childhood abuse..especially the crap my parents did on christmas & birthdays...each year my t (both this one & the old abusive one) make both times special...there are gifts ...the sessions closest to the holidays are important times..rain, floods, fire, etc couldn't keep me away from those sessions.

should t do this? no geez should someone report her butt? probably..will it be me? hell no! i can manage my birthday now, and christmas..and not because she gives me a gift but because someone showed me some love on these days and showed me it was safe...my parents never gave me gifts, or anything execpt abuse on those days..yeah they were special but for the wrong reasons. i was always suicidal on those days..not anymore.

so yeah..birthdays and therapy can be about each other.

so if her t and her have dinner..and SHE IS OKAY by it and enjoyed it then why are we all making this fuss about it...things went well...didn't hear of any "flying snail moments ala pretty woman" so it seems everyone survived.

oh and you know what...my regular dr...she knows the importance of birthdays too...her 4 yrd old son picks out gifts for one of the peeps who is his age...even the pdoc knows enough to say happy birthday too me...

i'm 51 yrs old with no family...and never learned about being safe on birthdays and holidays until a few yrs ago..so yeah therapy and holiday celebrations can co-exist.

stumpy
whose t's birthday is in 2 weeks...and even tho she says we can't buy her anything...she didn't say the peeps can't...they bring her flowers...and each year she she cries.