I really need some advice....I feel like everything is pretty hopeless at this point! I am 30 years old and have been with my husband for 14 years (married for 4 and together before that for 10). We have 2 beautiful boys, 2.5 years old and 4 months old. When I met my husband he liked to party and drink a lot but I always thought it was because we were young and I thought he would stop when he got older. Well when we got married in 2006, he didn't stop. He would go out at least 3 nights a week and most times would be out till past 2am in the am. I wouldn't know where he was most of the time and he usually would drive himself home after drinking all night. I am not much of a drinker so I eventually stopped going out with him. Plus whenever I went with him we would usually get into a fight because we can't get along when he drinks. H told me after we got married that he would slow down when we had kids. Well a few months later we got pregnant. We moved into our own apartment. He continued to drink at least 3 nights a week (sometimes more) the entire time I was pregnant. I can honestly say he was out with his friends more than he was home with me. He always stayed out till late in the am with no phone call and usually drove home drunk. I rarely knew where he was when he was out. In fact, one morning I was driving around looking for him at 4am. He said he would change once the baby was born.....he didn't. One time I came home from work at 9pm and found out he had driven our new born baby to a friends house, drank, and then drove home with our baby. I don't care how many beers you have you don't get in the car and drive my baby home!! His "social drinking" has continued. I just recently had another baby. He has slowed down some....he will sometimes go a month without a drink at all. But then his friends call and off he goes. He neve can just have a couple. No matter how much time he has it seems like he has to drink as much as he can. He never comes home when he says he is going to, he always drives home drunk, and when he comes home he is a totally different person. He is not the person I married. He is very argumentative, will find something that aggravates me and keep doing it, and will not leave me alone even if I ask him nicely. I even found out the other night that he left my 2 year old in the car ALONE while he went into the gas station to buy some beer to take to a 3 year olds birthday party!! His response to my shock was that he could see him from the door the whole time! He always tells me that if I didn't yell at him then he would come home when he said he would but he stays out all night long even when I don't yell at him! He says there is nothing wrong with him going out "once in a while" and that it is not my fault that he doesn't want to do anything. I don't like to go anywhere with him because I ALWAYS come home alone or have to wait around till midnight for him to finish drinking with his friends. Well I finally had enough the other night and bagged all his clothes out and threw them in the front yard. I told him he has to quit drinking or we are through. My parents live next door and unfortunately they got involved. They came into our house and were yelling at him and calling him an alcoholic.....well 1 week later my husband swears he will never drink again. He says he doesn't think he has a problem but he will quit this time because he sees how much it hurts me. However, I am not sure if he really will cuz he has said it before.. Then too make matters worse he wont talk to my parents because he said they had no right to come into his house and call him an alcoholic. This is very difficult because my mother watches our children. I am about ready to go crazy trying to make my husband happy and save our marriage AND keep my parents happy. Was I wrong to be upset about my husband's drinking? Do you think he is an alcoholic or is he just a social drinker who will be able to stop if he stays away from his friends? Were my parents wrong to get involved? HELP ME!