I think the issue you are having with sexual labels applies to all of life's beautiful word boxes. Words are our best means of communication, but they still don't come as close as we need them to. They're just words. Sounds that we make or write down to TRY and communicate something essentially non-verbal, and for the most part far more complex than we could ever manage to express, despite our best efforts. I have this issue with everything in my life, our society, this world full of boxes and paradigms that I find frequently infuriating. For example, I have been given no less than 5 different "official" diagnoses over the past decade, and I don't think a single one of them, or all of them combined, comes close to encompassing who it is that I am or what it is that I experience.

I'm also a woman, married and madly in love with a man, who has had sexual relationships with both men and women, and would choose the word bisexual as the closest and most fitting label from the lot... however. It's not what I am. It's just a word that helps other people to understand me in a certain context.

(I believe that all souls are complete on the spiritual plane, and that although we manifest into one of two sexes in life, that doesn't mean that we either ARE male or ARE female either. Maybe at the moment that's the best label to put on this current human experience. But I am much, much greater than JUST a human woman.)

The trick I've found, is never to take any of them (words) too seriously. Misuse them intentionally sometime, or choose one and say it or write it repeatedly until it starts to looks like alien gibberish. Then you realize how truly empty they are without the energy and emotion that we give them ourselves.

But, I'm also a poet. I LOVE words, I think they're tasty. =)
Ah, the beauty of the human contradiction. =)

You are who you are. It is what it is. djfnirnvruynvtunutrnoirtni, etc.