welcome to PC.

Is he seeing a psychiatrist for the anxiety meds? If he isn't it may be a good idea to consult one.

I have bipolar disorder and have done things I don't remember, but not as a result of bipolar. It's a result of dissociation for me.

There maybe other things at play other than bipolar disorder. It might be a good idea for you to get into some sort of couples therapy. You don't sound like you have a very healthy relationship (the affair). The affair shouldn't be blamed on mental illness. People still have to be responsible for their actions.

btw, I have seen it before, but never known: what does DH stand for?

Feel free to pm me any time if there is anything I can help with.

gem