I hear you. On those days, wether its your birthday, or new years, etc, maybe use that time to stop and just do something you want? I was alone on newyears and my bday, along with most occasions. I said to heck with it. On my bday I had a craving for fresh baked bread and crab legs, lol, so with those and a new movie I just relaxed and treated myself. Ask yourself if there is anything simple that you have had a craving for or wanted to do but lack time? Just ideas