Oh, Eskie, thank you!

Our grief is so unique like a snowflake and we are a bit of a mess, all over the page but slowly accepting and you are right to say trauma. At first we thought a regular grief but we see this grieving for our dear friend has an added component of trauma.

Found a quote this morning from my grief book, Grief Share:

"It's a myth that you can anticipate the grief and that you work through you grief ahead of time" Dr Robert C DeVries.

We do pray for the family and thank you for thinking of them too. He was well-loved, was so respectful of our daughter. His Mom provided wonderful educational opportunities for him and his compassion and love for others will be deeply missed.

Thing is we have had two traumatic deaths recently. The other was a Mom and her daughter in a plane crash. So, we are so traumatized! We are becoming more calm as each day passes but yesterday our anger around the losses just burst out! We not a very quiet griever when the suppressed emotions are lifted, I am afraid.

Of course, wrapped in all this is the guilt feelings of not doing enough, so we talked to our therapist who helped us see we did everything we could and the feelings hopefully will follow that. We also have our memories of the people in our family...*sigh* This is why our avitar is like a burned out landscape after the devastating effects of a forest fire.

So, all in all it has been one of those terror just to go through and it felt like we dropped our shield of faith and a few arrows got through. But, we see we still have it. We believe with all our hearts that he is, even now in heaven as is the Mom and baby and we are to see them again. P E A C E

So, thank you Eskie for sharing your heart and for the others, it means a great deal and we will find that peace again.

Love,
Hunny

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