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Feb 13, 2010, 01:50 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Hi bridgie 
New relationships are always easy because everyone is on their best behavior, trying to impress each other in every way. There is no baggage, no ups and downs together, no testing of love or commitment. Naturally, he's happy.
It sounds to me as if he still cares and would be there for you in case of a real life crisis/emergency if you had no one else - maybe, depending on how his new girlfriend feels about him "loving" his ex. Some girls don't like their men to be at the beck and call of their former lovers - it can make them jealous of the relationship.
It also sounds like he only wants to speak with you when you can be "perky," - never asking for a shoulder to lean on, never mentioning old wounds, never talking about a bad day. He only wants to hear about your good days and how you've moved on in life - so he no longer has to worry about any interruptions with his new love.
Women are like that too. When they find a new man who can provide them with everything they want and need in a relationship, it becomes VERY difficult when her ex-lover keeps hanging around - peeking in the windows and crying outside. It can make her new lover angry....at both of them.
I get along very well with my ex-husband. However, out of respect for his wife I would never ask him to "be there for me." The exception was when our son was dying (he survived). His wife had no problem with him hopping on a plane to be by his side. She knew he wasn't doing this for me, and she knew we wouldn't be spending any "quiet time" together.
My husband had no problem sharing our son with my ex-husband. We worked out a schedule. My husband was with our son on a daily basis too - but when his biological father was on his way, he politely got out of the way so the two of them could have their time together. I was there too - but only with my husband when my ex wasn't there - they didn't need me there at that time.
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