I go through this every single day. I have reached a point in conversation with my husband where he understands that saying things like, "it's no big deal" is not helpful, and in fact is very hurtful to me. Because something that may not be a "big deal" to him, can be a very "big deal" to me.

I have learned to give myself big kudos when I do manage to complete something on my 'to-do' list. You have to allow yourself the space to feel POSITIVE when you've completed something, even if you don't get that reinforcement from anyone else. Trying to communicate to your family that their support with things like this would be very helpful is also important, but, don't expect the praise to come from them, and then be let down if it doesn't. I've gotten to the point now where I make sure I say OUT LOUD, and to my husband directly if I need to, "I did _____ today. And I'm really proud of myself, because it wasn't easy, but I did it anyway, and that makes me awesome." =)

Setting yourself up for disappointment by expecting too much from yourself is another big issue. Set small goals, and if you meet them, GREAT, if you don't, try again when you can, maybe tomorrow, maybe move on to something else for a while.

The truth is, as long as you're not living in the world of "Sarah Cynthia Silvia Stout" from Shel Silverstein, you know, the girl who was drowned in her own home by not taking out the garbage, then really... those things just AREN'T a BIG DEAL if they don't get done every single day. Eventually, you'll reach a point where it bugs you so much that you take care of it, or at least that's what happens to me.

When you are pushing to try and do something, and something "goes wrong" as you mentioned, try and take some deep breathes and back away for a minute, remind yourself that everything is ok, nothing horrible is going to happen if you burn the chicken or over-boil the pasta. Try and have FUN with whatever it is that you are trying to accomplish. Cooking, for one, can be REALLY fun. Maybe watch some cooking shows to get you "in the mood" to cook, that usually works for me.

When it comes to laundry and homework, well... I was always a procrastinator in high school, but the homework does have to get done at some point. If it doesn't happen until 5 minutes before class and you manage to pull out a good grade, then good for you, whatever works. It should help if you are working on something that you enjoy. So maybe taking another look at whatever you are going to school for, your hopes and dreams, etc. Or finding a good creative outlet to balance the academic stuff, would help.

Laundry.... oh, laundry. lol. To be honest, my husband does the laundry. But I have finally reached a point where I can help him fold it all and put it away when he gets back from the laundromat (because I'm awesome), and he knows that encouragement and taking things a little slower with me is what's gotten me that far with it.

I think being open and honest with your family is a good place to start. And then, accepting that what comes "easily" for someone else, doesn't mean it's something that comes "easily" for you, and giving yourself that extra patience, acceptance, and encouragement, and SELF PRAISE when you do succeed.

Hope this helps!!