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Originally Posted by Catherine2
veggy...
I've been following your thread with interest. You've brought up some good points about what folks back home are dealing with...thank you for that.
Jmo, but yes he is trying to protect you in his own way.
But he may also be trying to protect himself.
It's good that you understand he has got to focus on his present situation, and not too much on back home. Your cheating on him is most likely the last thing on his mind...
Pre-Deployment takes as much out of a soldier as post deployment does; just in a different way. Triple those affects if there is little time between deployments...
Another counselor may be of great help to you...please don't discount therapy because of the actions of this one.
Perhaps concentrating, for right now, on your anxiety and anger will ease this painful time for you.
My best wishes,
Catherine
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well, for the cheating thing, when i was with him for the marine corps ball he curled up and begged me not to cheat on him and said he'd go crazy if i left him, then said all women cheat during deployments. so i know it has something to do with it even if i would never do that.
i know he needs to focus. but the more i leave him alone, the more he seeks me out to be cruel. we met on a forum first, and i stopped talking to him there and now he's reading every post i make and leaving rude comments to me for absolutely no reason. like he says he doesn't want contact with me, but as soon as i stop, he'll seek it out in negative ways.
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Originally Posted by sharon123
LOVE isn't supposed to hurt; get another psychologist, educate yourself on abuse, etc...you cannot change him, and yo do not need to change yourself, but you DO need to understand what is gooing on. The Verbally Abusive Relationship byp Patricia Evans saved my life.
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love hurts. he has problems and i think he needs to be evaluated. he doesn't seem capable of controlling this side of him when he snaps. either he gets help and things work out or he doesn't. i can't force it, but i can inform his family that i'm friends with and they can support him since he won't let me.