Littlebear,

You are not alone!

Lots of us have a wave of loneliness at around the age of 30, it's an uncertain time of life. I was pretty much in your situation when I met my wife (I was 33) and we have been together now for 26 years. I would never have believed it could happen, especially after a painful first marriage.

One thought, I would say that it is important to be sociable, to stay in the game, and don't let a 'crust of loneliness' form around you. It's a mindset that we can easily slip into. If you are open minded and friendly, you'll never really be alone.

My Scottish Grandfather met a lady in the old folks home and they ran away together to the Scottish highlands, living their last few years in a caravan up there. He was 65 when they married.

The only people I've known who have stayed alone and quite unhappy have been difficult and cantankerous characters, although they don't see that of course! IMHO embitterment is the real enemy; if you can stay open minded, then people will always warm to you.

Cheers, M