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Feb 15, 2010, 03:34 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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(((((AShadow)))))
These experiences sound all to scary for young girls. They do sound weird...and just reading what you wrote gave me the creeps.
As far as whether this is sexual abuse, there is overt SA, and then there is covert SA. Overt SA is when someone touches you in intimate places, molests/sexually assaults you. Covert SA is a non-physical form of SA. This sounds like what your Grandmother was doing. There is an article in the sticky section of this forum that can give you more information about it. I'm so sorry that these things happened to you. An important thing to remember is that no matter what anybody calls it, these actions your Grandmother took made you extremely uncomfortable and violated you in a way that no child should be violated.
I have seen the type of behavior you speak of, in regards to your Grandmother's favoritism for the boys. My Mother's Mother was the same way with her kids and her Grandkids.
I don't want to make any assumptions or allegations against your Grandmother, but PLEASE DON'T let her watch your Son. She has some issues and if she favors boys there is no telling what type of "etiquette" classes she has given to them. It is quite possible that your Grandmother may have an affinity for males, while chastising and demeaning females.
My suggestion....keep your children away from her. If your Son is going to be around her, make sure you are there with him and watch your Grandmother like a hawk. 
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