wpowers,
This is a scary thing to do, don't you think? You are very brave.
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Originally Posted by wpowers
To get through it, I just took it one day at a time and went with the flow. And I listened to what was said even when I did not believe it or trust it.
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Skyliner,
Thank you so much for your response. I wish I could put into words how validating it feels to have someone really understand.
Our situations DO sounds similar. I've been with my T for 8 months as well. Maybe we just need to be patient. I don't know.
I am so envious of some of the things I read here about other people and their relationships with T. I know I shouldn't compare but sometimes I wonder how valuable this process can be if I don't really trust T.
I hope we figure it out soon, too.
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Originally Posted by skyliner
dark, I am in a similar place now. I feel like t and I are soooo different, we don't connect on the level I would like to; something is off and I can't pinpoint it.
I do not feel attached, and don't know if it's because I see her only once a week. Would more frequent sessions make it more likely for a deeper attachment to develop?
I am with her 8 months and still don't like where I am with her. Yet the prospect of starting with a new one is an exhausting one.
I don't know if this inability to bond is due to the infrequent sessions; maybe by the time I come back 7 days later it's all watered down.
Or maybe the inability to bond is because my previous t did something so awful it has affected my trust.
I'm trying to sort out why I don't feel the level of connect I want to feel.
Most of all I want to be able to leave my heartache and pain in her office, something I used to do with my previous one, but here I am unable to do it.
Just not feeling the level of safety I want to feel. And too blind to know if it's reality based or transference based.
Hope we figure this out soon, darkrunner.
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