What you describe about the public rape sounds horribly traumatic. Perhaps a male therapist who specializes in trauma could help. It sounds like if you saw a female, you might feel she was against you, so a male might be safer. Above all, it sounds like you might benefit from seeing someone who sees you as an individual, rather than as a representative of your gender. For example, I see a male therapist, and I have observed him "in action" with both males and females and not noticed a favoritism or discrimination.

Good luck with your search for healing.