A gynecologist made passes at me 1 week after surgeryand actually in the hospital when I was on demerol, too! This confused and upset me very badly and gave me confusing sexual feelings, too. This was about 12 years ago. I ended the doctor/pt. relationship but he kept calling me. I ended up changing my phone number. I tried to report him to a certain association but it was one he was a member of and they wanted me to sign a paper excluding him of any liability. I was going to because I thought they would still investigate but then I tore up the paper and did not contact them and they dropped it. I feared him. I also felt sorry for him and did not want to see him jobless and career-ruined. But part of me wanted to stick it to him, too. I was very upset, hurt and confused. I know he would have just kept using me. I believe I was not the first as he was very confident and adept at what he was doing. This screwed me up for a long time and I am better now but I found out later I could have reported him to the AMA. Last I heard he died so no need to report him now. I also discussed his actions in therapy.
Bluerose it seems the more people tell you to get away from him the closer you want to get to him, no? I have had major illnesses too where I thought no one would want me. If your therapist wanted you, other men will too. You can stay with that relationship and see what happens of course-no one can stop you. I don't know the need it's fulfilling but if you wanted to, you could find someone else to fulfill it.
Obviously you are not leading a happy life and I think you need to get to the core of your unhappiness and the affair is only a bandaid to cover up your problems and your new problem, too, with the therapist. No offense intended but please think on it, okay?
At this point in life I feel no relationship is better than a confusing hurting one, for me.
Best of luck to you mylife and bluerose and all the rest of you, too.
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