Oh Googley....so not your fault sweetie! Sometimes we get parents that are damaged but Googley, it's not our job to make them well....Even though they are damaged.....it's their job to break the cycle and change that for their children. I wish I had learned this a long time ago...Googley, we can't fix the people we love as much as we would like to, and we can't take responsibility for upsetting them with the truth.

Googley, I have made a lot of mistakes with my daughter because of my childhood....but....I have apologized to her for my weakness and worked so hard to be a good mother to her. No parents are perfect, but in my opinion if you can admit that and own up to your mistakes...well, there is healing in that. My daughter is my best friend in spite of every mistake I made.

Much love to you Googley. You are a wonderful and insightful person. Don't let anyone take that away from you!

Susan