Everyone is a VIP here. I wish I had the wisdom of Solomon or of Pythia at the Oracle of Delphi. But I do not. There are going to be what Churchill called black dog days for everyone. No matter how hard we try, we cannot reach those in pain all of the time.
Sometimes, I remind myself of the Chinese proverb: It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness.
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