Its good that you are really thinking about things. You will be glad you spent the time doing it later, whether you stay or go. I would suggest seriously trying to spend some time figuring out what you want from a relationship. Don't think about him when you do it, think only about you and what you desire. Write out a good list, be fair to yourself and be really honest about things. It took me a really long time to realize why all my relationships failed. I was picking people who "had potential" for being what I wanted, but didn't really fill what I really wanted. I was accepting things that were on my "definitely don't want" list because I thought, well, if they accept my flaws I should accept theirs. The thing is, maybe my flaws weren't on their "don't want" list. So they were things they could deal with. Unfortunately (or fortunately, depends on how you look at it), the things that I saw as flaws in them were things I couldn't accept. It wasn't wrong for me to admit this to myself. In fact, once I came to accept what I wanted and didn't want, it was A LOT easier for me to see what I was doing and I actually found a person that fit into most of my "must haves" and who didn't have any of the "definitely don't wants". I love my husband dearly. The flaws I have are things he can deal with, things he willing to work on and he knows are just a part of me that I cannot change just because he doesn't like them. The flaws he has are things I can live with. Sometimes he gets on my nerves, sometimes things he does really drive me up the wall, but he's yet to cross over the line into things I cannot deal with. I know this was a long *** response, but I really think you owe it to yourself to find what you want. You aren't being mean or unreasonable. In fact, I think it is far kinder to you and him that you do decide what you can and cannot live with. Otherwise you will resent things that you feel you have to work too hard on or you have to overlook that you really hate and don't want in a partner. There's a huge difference in just saying "well, that's just so-and-so, but I love him" and "this particular habit or trait is something that I hate". When you find someone who can love you and who doesn't have a problem with your flaws, and who you can love and you don't have a problem with their flaws, it really is easier to work on things. Yes, a relationship is hard work, but it shouldn't involve you putting aside your wants and needs because you felt the other person looked past some of your flaws.

Does that make any sense whatsoever?