I am on the other end of that spectrum. I am no longer sexually aroused by my husband. He has betrayed my trust with an act that happened many years ago... not with a person. I am unhappy to distraction, and I feel your pain. I think we can be like roommates, but the definition of the romance must be revisited. It does not exist. I don't even know if I love him or not. Is that so sad? What are you thinking about your relationship now. How old is the relationship? Do you have kids?