Has taken a long time for me too, Catherine.. This being a "doormat" for others is for the birds...Can't say I feel all that empowered yet.. ummm I was a little shaky when I asked the contractor to move his things... Stopped being shaky when he didn't and I moved a few of the boxes.. Think "strength" stepped in.. smile

Just feels soo good and "empowering" being heard and understood. I will be a glowing when I am a doormat no more...