Obviovsly from the posts above, it seems when it comes to abuse cats and dogs are smarter than people. They do everything they can to avoid abuse while some abuse victims put themselves right back in the abusers environment over and over and over again until we realize that banging our head up against wall long enough we realize we have a headache. But most of us eventually learn. Cats and dogs rely on us to keep them safe. Please do not tratmatize your pets to appease your abuser. Everyone will feel better in the long run. Thanks.