Do you have a T? Perhaps some therapy in the area of assertiveness would be a good idea.
I googled
assertiveness training, here are two of the many hits:
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_d...pe=doc&id=9778
http://stress.about.com/od/relations...owtoassert.htm
There are also books at amazon that you could buy or get from the library.
I agree with you:
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I have to find the courage and be strong myself.
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Do make enhancing your assertiveness a priority. If there is another incident in which you feel that you should have handled things differently, take heart. Think it over, know what you should have done better, and try again.
Be gentle with yourself: it sounds like you have experienced years of intimidation from your grandmother, father, and sister. It will take time to get to where you want to be.
Be like water: work steadily at assertiveness, day by day, and gradually you will reshape things.
I have confidence in you: I know that you can do it, and both you and your son will be the better off for it.
