mylife, I understand your stress, and it may not have been a great idea to meet up with this guy, but there is another way to look at it. You met him, and nothing bad happened. His paying for everything could be seen as just a nice gesture...it does not need to taint your sons present.

Maybe you could tell him that things are going a little too fast for you, and that you'd like to keep it just to online and phone for awhile. Seeing how he reacts to something like that might tell you a lot about what kind of man he is.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, other than I can sure relate to how you are feeling. I tend to get close to people really fast, and sometimes I am left worrying about what kind of people they really are. But so far, nothing bad has happened, so there is no need to be upset about the past...just do what you need to to make yourself feel safe and comfortable from here on out.

Take care,
Jo