Hi Sky,

I totally agree, avoidance is not the answer. It's a trap; a false security. Having said that we don't have to burn ourselves either. IMHO that's a trap as well.

We learn to look after ourselves, just like the clever people do. We learn to stand up for ourselves, but to sidestep what we can't handle, to keep safe. Regular people have been shown how to do that from day one, it's the most important thing in life for them. They learn to avoid the crap.

I can go to my avoidance places if I have to, but I have to admit that I'd rather be eating peaches in the South of France!

Good thoughts, M

PS - Staying on this site has been important for me too, and meeting good people like you.