I think I get myself into the same boat. I can't tell if I'm grandiose or just standing my ground. I'm involved in a lot of community groups as a volunteer and when I see anything being done "wrong" - whether it the way an event is run or how fast/slow they do it - I always have something to say, especially if I'm not one of the 'leaders' of the project.

It's probably way I do end up being one of the organisers/leaders/bosses of a lot of things I'm involved with. I just too obsessed with the finer details and things being prefect so maybe that gives off the illusion that I know what I'm doing to the group so I do gain enough trust for them to allow me to behave this way. In some cases, I might have the knowledge but I can think of times that I was just being way too over confident so maybe I was manic then? I don't know. So far it hasn't really cost me anything negative to come back at me or those involved; hopefully it stays that way.

My boyfriend just (I think), identifies the behaviour as me having to rant about whatever it is I care about at the time and just lets me run the course without interrupting it. I guess he knows he'd would have a hard time responding to everything I'd say as I tend to have a comeback for everything once I've started a rant. :-P

So I really connect with you when you say, "Why don't other people get upset about these things? I mean its not like I get mad about the color of my neighbor's trash can, I get upset about things that really effect people.." because that's exactly how I feel and for me, it just sends me into an overdrive to get things 'fixed'.