Writing your solutions out is what I was thinking too and I would even present it that way instead of trying to talk with others in person. That way they won't know about the fast-talking, emotional side to you. They can just see the logic in your ideas. I would have someone else read it first though just to make sure it has a clear, concise message. If you don't have an honest friend for that, would your husband be able to help edit you and make suggestions if you explained your concerns about your approach? Believe me, I can be quite the rambler sometimes, unable to stop even though I can see how "weird" it makes me look. I choose to think I am being charming, kind of funny and child-like. Okay, maybe that doesn't work all that well. Anyway, try the writing thing and let us know how that works for you. You will feel much better about things than if you don't do anything. Good luck!