Hi Butterflying
Welcome to PC
I don't see anything wrong with emailing T when things get tough. My T has advised that i not use email as it has been a major source of miscommunication btw her and I. Though i undertsand this, i still email T when i need to.. but i don't expect her to write back. It's nice when she does though. Have you though about writing a no-send email? What about sending T and email to just say, 'Are you there"? Sometimes it's comforting to just know that T is there even when things are rough. I know that has been helpful for a lot of people.