I assume this doesn't mean she is not anti-sexuality - but not attracted. In our case here, my wife's hysterectomy in 2005 (also took ovaries) changed her body's chemistry enough to turn into someone who just is not interested in anything. I am not one to push for it so I do my best to give her occasional hugs and so on. However, she spends most of the day alone (watching tv or on the computer in another room) and will tend not to join me and the kids watching tv or hanging out in another room other than at dinner time. I suspect that she just has lost interest in close personal relationships and would rather go for the generic and limited relationships that are online and in tv shows. We have been through counseling and I still have a T myself for weekly work.

I'd say ask yourself if you can handle the loss of sex. If so, can your marriage be enough without it? In my case, I think it will but it is not a fullfilling marriage in other areas too. If you play games, hang out together, go out to dinner together and do other marrige things, then lack of sex may be just fine. In my case - I'd love to have all those other things as well.

What can you do to present a better you? Attraction sexually is not physical - it is 99% mental. it is about mental enthusiasm, life-wonder, excitement over a family plan (let's paint a room or look for a great painting together for the living room). Sex "follows" rather than "leads". Sex is a representation of the rest of the marriage (I think).

By all means consider marriage counseling to bring out the details of any issue and present your side of the situatoin with a moderator.