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anderson · Feb 18, 2010, 12:27 PM

(((((HUNNY)))))
The reason our pain is so stong is because there are those that have used our fear againts us. There are those that honestly thought they were helping us heal but the truth is that non of those that wanted anything to do with us in person did not want to help but create more pain for us. That is why we are hurting so much. The biggest waight on us now is not the past pain but the pain of the present abuse of not having no one to trust face to face not to try to hurt us. We even told someone yesterday our biggest mistake is two fold we went to mentil health to get help they told eveybody we were not going to recover so a group of men desided to use my pain to their advantage. The second mistake was believeing that anyone could accept me for who I am and help us heal in safety. This is not true for everyone here this was based on what happened to me and how those around me choice to see the truth.
As to you inner part, start doing healing time. That is when we take a doll or even use your grand children. But during this time picture the part and say to that part as I treat this...... That is how I am treating you. When taking baths or doing something that makes you feel good just say "As I am doing this, this is how I treat you." Make up some positive statments. You can help this part deal with the paiin it hold with out being connected. We told one person to hold a doll or stuffie and think of the part that was in so much pain. Then say to the doll and part as I love this..... I love, accept you, and thank you for caring the pain that I was not able to bare my self. This is where if you can see that this part is a valuble yet seperat till that part has heal from the extrem pain that joining is so much easier and softer.