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Originally Posted by Sannah
FG, I get the feeling that your T likes things "nice and clean" and that things (like feelings) can be packaged up nice and pretty if we just have a strong enough will to put those buggers aside. Now I'm sure that your T cares a lot about you and he wants the absolute best for you and that he wants you healed. It just seems that the route that you both are taking is the zip train, but with feelings the fastest way there is the slowest. (I heard someone around here somewhere make this statement!) Feelings from the past can't be put away quickly. They need to be allowed. We all here have spent our childhoods where our feelings weren't allowed. It just isn't right if it happens in therapy too.........
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I'd say you really have it wrong. I've been working intensively with on thoughts and feelings for years. This IS a slow process. You have to realize that by the time I got into therapy with my current t, I had had very good therapy with two other t's at earlier times in my life for a total of 6 yearsish.
My current t, he is all about thoughts and feelings. That is what I am always working on. About the past, about the present, heck, about the future too. What you may be objecting to is the idea of setting the memories aside. That doesn't mean I set the feelings aside, just the memories. I look at the thoughts and feelings associated with the memories, and especially at what those past memories mean to me now. But I don't need or want to keep replaying those old memories on a continuous loop. Once is enough. I know what happened. Seeing it over and over and over again doesn't change the memory itself. I can choose to set that aside and focus on what really matters, the thoughts and feelings I associate with the memories.
No zip train here.