Well relax! I have heard on the radio about some type of fragrance or some type of herbal supplement that makes sex more pleasurable or possibly for you to be more relaxed. I have no idea if it's a scam but there are herbal teas that relax you, and your body, and I think telling the doctor more specifically what is the problem and asking what could correct the problem is a good thing to do. Talk with some professionals and check the internet for resources about painful sex. Maybe have more foreplay and partial penetration with your husband being very careful would relax you. I don't know the answer really, but I bet talking with some type of sex specialist could have answers for you and I am sure there is one somewhere, ask for a referral from the doctor to talk to someone that deals with this.

Best of luck.

Grithnir