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Elysium · Feb 19, 2010, 02:33 AM

I have to say that I agree with Yoda and Ro.

This sounds like he's not wanting to compromise here. Both of your educations are very important and neither one of you should have to sacrifice your education for a relationship.

If the relationship is truly strong, this won't be such an issue. If your Grad studies are condensed to one year, what's the big issue? One year is not that long to not live together in order for you to get your Grad stuff done and for him to get started at his school. Then, once you are done with your Grad studies, you could move with him. What is his reasoning for not being comfortable with you going to school without him there? Again, this sounds a bit selfish on his part, not to mention it sounds like he's attempting to isolate you.

What is his reason for wanting to wait till he is in Med School to introduce you to his family? That doesn't make sense to me. What is going to be the difference between now and then?

It doesn't sound like your so stuck. It sounds like you know which end is up in this relationship and that you can see he isn't being very fair or understanding but you don't like the choices you are looking at having to make.

Honestly, your education is VERY important. Your BF knows this but is wanting you to sacrifice that for him. My suggestion would be to really evaluate your relationship with him and see what is going to help you achieve your ultimate goals easier.

If it were me in this situation, I would tell the BF that my education comes first at this point and that if he truly cares he would support me in finishing my education, even if that meant going to a different school and living on my own for a while.

There's plenty of time to live together later.