Hi FG, yeah, I understand what you are saying about this and I agree. I see a part though that is different IMO. Feelings form when we are children, especially to situations that weren't good. And of course we were unable to express these feelings as children. If we don't let these feelings out in therapy they will continue to be held within. If they stay here like this they can continue to be triggered, like you are describing. If you just let the darn things out you don't have to do all of these mental gymnastics to keep things under control.

And when I say let them out I really mean to allow them to come out and not be controlled by anyone or anyone saying, "okay, I see a little bit of them, now package them up and put them away so that you can be under control again".