Yes, I learned in therapy that we gravitate towards what we know b/c it's familiar, & well, all we know. And I learned that we will seek out situations or relationships much like our abuse & abusers, in an attempt to finally be the one's in control. I hope that makes sense. It does seem very strange that people would do this until you really think about it, & realize how "normal" the behavior is, when it seemed so crazy before we understood it.