Thank you Gez. I really appreciate your support. This week was really wierd. She keeps saying that she doesn't want this guy and she really wants to be with me. She wants me but she doesn't her actions don't. She told me she knows she has a problem and she wants to get help. But she won't be able until January. She also says that she cannot let him go right now. She won't tell me why but promises that they have no intrest in eachother other than friendship. They are supposed to be like brother and sister now. Her excuse. "Well my brother and I are not as close as we used to be." HUH?? Is she crazy! I don't believe they are still having sex. And the relationship is a friendship. I just believe that oshe wants him, knows she can't have him, and is holding onto me now. Because she doesn't want to end up alone. Her greatest fear. She has told me she wants us to get married June 25th 2005. But for now she won't let him go. When I ask why not she says I can't tell you. I asked "are you living with him?" she said I can't tell you, "do you work with him?" She said I can't tell you. She just won't tell me anything. Another ploit to have her cake and eat it too. Then called me selfish because I wanted to see her. She promised to come see me today. Ofcourse she didn't make it. And came up with an excuse. My grandmother said I shouldn't go. It's not time yet. Then says maybe tomorrow. I have to go to court over the DUI on monday. I have not been drinking since I was charged. Thats good. Then she says that t.his time away is for her to get closer to her family. It But looks like shes just ing closer to him. When I asked her "If you really want to be with me why would you spend your time with him?" She says, "I can't tell you, you might get mad and come up to Detroit. But I will tell you. One day." Menipulation. I am still hurting....