Some of you may remember why and when I joined here and the extreme emotional pain I was experiencing at the failure of this last attempt at a relationship. I've received much helpful insight from many of you here. It has truly helped me. I had joined another forum prior to finding this one, where the women were just saying, "Get over it!"
The posts here have been compassionate and much more helpful. I also have worked very hard, and am now no longer in any emotional pain. That alone is a blessing and feels like a miracle.
The aftermath of all of this, for me, at 54, is little or no desire to ever venture "out there" (Seinfeld) again into the world of over-50 dating, especially via the Internet singles sites!!!! The rest of the aftermath is that I have let myself go physically, not caring how I look, gaining weight, and feeling unfeminine and unattractive (which I am at this time!).
The positive is: I'm no longer in emotional pain, no longer blaming myself, am enjoying my days at my teaching job, and finally, yes, FINALLY, looking forward to self-improvement sans a man. This time, I will lose weight, get emotionally and physically fit in order to feel healthy and happy for myself...a first.
Thanks to all of you for being here!
Seeker "Patty"