remember, he is 38. allow him to cope and deal. if he wants to talk to you, by all means listen. one thing that i have found out and i practice it, as much as i can, is to never criticize my grown children's choices. i may be upset and i may dislike whomever...but i do not voice it to them. if someone has made a poor choice, the last thing they need from us, is criticism. i know, for myself, that i am fully aware when i've "screwed" up. he needs time to decompress......it's really wonderful that he has you to turn to and that you can offer him a home....xoxoxo pat