Seeker,

I am so glad you are finding "yourself" without it being defined by the someone else that women seem so often to need. It is a place where I was at back in the 70's when I was in college......I had my goals, I had my future planned in my mind, I wanted my career & nothing else......well a guy came along & we have been married 30 years......but I am now filing for a divorce.......it had become just tolerating some things that I had no desire to tolerate. I truely don't think I will ever want a permanent relationship again.......I have always had guys for friends throughout the marriage.....because I worked only with men in the engineering field I was in. Friends are fine but when they want to control my life......no way!!!!!!!!!!

It is good to be happy with yourself & satisfied with what & who you are. If a relationship is good, you can have that confidence with yourself & the relationship too.....otherwise I personally don't think it is worth making yourself what someone else wants.

Be happy & love yourself,
Debbie