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Old Feb 20, 2010, 07:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Anneinside View Post
It sounds like he has his own issues to deal with. As far a "growing a spine", or being assertive, you don't have to be cruel, you just create boundaries and learn to say no. I have a friend who can't say no and she is constantly taken advantage of by one "friend". She has just gotten to the point where she can accept gifts from me without trying to pay for them. Building friendships can really help. You can start right here!
Boundaries...exactly! I have a really hard time with that too, but I recently read a really good book called "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend. It talks a lot about not letting other people walk all over you, but not being cruel about it either. Just not letting people affect you. (it takes a lot of work! I'm no where there yet)

Hope ya start to feel better (((((hugs)))))
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"Why does the rest of the world put up with the hypocrisy,the need to put a happy face on sorrow, the need to keep on keeping on?..I don’t know the answer, I know only that I can’t. I don't want any more vicissitudes, I don't want any more of this try, try again stuff. I just want out. I’ve had it. I am so tired.I am twenty and I am already exhausted.”-Elizabeth Wurtzel
Thanks for this!
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