Midcilla, how happy are you in this relationship when your husband is not drinking? I ask because is seems that alcohol has been a point of contention throughout.

If a heavy drinker stops he/she may be one of those described as a dry drunk. A dry drunk, in simplest terms, is someone who does not drink but still retains many of the characteristics of a drinking alcoholic. Those characteristics may include exaggerated self-importance and pomposity, grandiose behavior, a rigid, judgmental outlook, impatience, childish behavior, irresponsible behavior, irrational rationalization, projection and overreaction.

I am not suggesting anything by asking you about the relationship. I do know when my Dad quit, he still made life very difficult for everyone.

Good luck.