I can understand this all. My father is the same way. He's wants my emotional support all the time, but he abused me and my emotions and therefore deserves no right for me to comfort him and his. I cut off all ties with my father from age 12 to 20. Although, he did stalk me. And my sister hated me for it. My sister didn't start talking to me again (or at least in a kind loving manner) until I moved back in with my father. For those 8 years, she held a grudge against me and now I have her back. But to what expense to me? I love my sister, I really do, and I don't want her to be mad at me. But this time when I leave, I hope I'll never look back. I hope that my father will not try to stalk me this time and if he does, I will call the police on him. Now, I have my son to think of. I don't want my father in his life. I don't want him ruining my son's life like he did mine. I don't want my son hurt. I really should have thought about myself the same way, but I never had the self-respect that I have now since I became a mother. I hope yours will come sooner. Take a stand for yourself, and give yourself the love and respect your parents should have given you. You don't need an abuser in your life. I'm sure she's going to try to manipulate you over and over, like I know my father will. But since you are away from her, you can better ignore it.