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Old Feb 21, 2010, 08:10 AM
laura2 laura2 is offline
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Originally Posted by AShadow721 View Post
I really don't have much of a support system here. I do have one friend who has helped me some by taking me to the store and what not, whom I just started speaking to again a few months ago. Another old friend offered help. They could help me get out, but they couldn't give me place to stay. They are both males and although they both offered me a place to stay, I am uneasy about it. My one friend that lives much closer cannot stand when my son cries and that is a terrible sign. He also wants to be with me in a relationship. He has often said things to me I didn't want to hear, although when we first started talking again, he said he didn't want to hang out with me just because he wanted something from me. My other friend actually proposed to me a few weeks ago. I had told him I was married. But he proposed to me anyway, because of my situation (he is in the army and it would be a good deal, if I wasn't married and in love). It made me very angry. Although, he was offering me a place to live, money, a job, a car, child care, school paid off, health insurance, he was also offering me a life without my husband and I took that as an attack. (Am I dumb to not take that offer?) Either way, my husband would not be happy with me staying with a single male. My mother has a few friends around here. One that offered me a place to stay about a year ago, but my mother didn't think it was a good idea, so I went the public housing route instead. Anyway, yes I believe I have a few people that could help me plan a way out.
i think your so right in wanting out then, with the house in his name it will always hang over you, beggar's belief but as you say he could throw you out at any moment, & its not just you to think of.

I myself would be weary of any conditions/hidden agenda's in people good will, when your desperate it might sound tempting, but you need to look out for YOU, quick, easy way outs always tend to cause more trouble, your instinct's are right, no you are not dumb not to take his offer, you are wise not to be taken in by someone else.

If housing is like anything over here you can wait years, & still get nothing, hopefully this will come through for you long term, but you need support now, your mom's friend that offered you a place, could that still be an option?, why didnt she think it would be a good idea?, has your mom given you much advise, you havent said much how she feel's about it all, how would life be for her if he came back..
Thanks for this!
AShadow721