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Lexicon78 said:I would like to have kids and was told I can't get prego if I don't orgasm.

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It is true that an orgasm does help your uterus & vaginal muscles relax & the contractions within the vagina help pull seminal material deeper inside, but you can still get pregnant w/out a climax.

A lot of medications can make it hard to orgasm for men or women both - antidepressants, blood pressure medications, diet pills, even some OTC sinus pills & pain killers. If you're not feeling healthy & relaxed around your partner, if you're tired, feeling low, having self-esteem & self-confidence issues, or if you're having control or intimacy problems in your relationship, it can really throw sex out of whack. Not having enough time or trying to fit sex into an overwhelmed schedule can do it, too.

Now that I think about it, just about anything can ruin really good sex. Too much sleep, not enough sleep, too much work, not enough work, too much food, not enough food, someone says something weird & puts you out of the mood (my husband once did an impression of the robot from Buck Rogers at an inopportune moment & ruined things for a week - every time I thought about sex the only thing that went through my mind was 'Biddy biddy biddy').

If you feel comfortable with it, try mutual masturbation w/your partner & see if you can both achieve orgasm that way. If you feel relaxed & safe giving yourself pleasure around your partner, you can work up from there. And never be afraid to drop hints about what you enjoy - men aren't mind-readers.