Well I would try and make sure she is attracted to you and this isn't a type of recircuiting of her brain that her family put her through from her original feelings of being gay. It seems like there are a few other lesbian women that are married and attracted to their male husbands but still it is something to think about. There is a great two book series by D. H. Lawrence, The Rainbow and Women in Love, about a girl named Ursala I think. She found herself attracted to a female teacher, but then to a man later, and the attraction had more to do with being intellctually stimulated by the two individuals and challenged. These things happen to a lot to people growing up but only sensitive or intelligent people acknowledge these feelings.