Sykee,

I can understand your problem with your husband.....& not wanting to leave him until your son is out of HS. I am at the point finally where I have been pushed far enough with my husband, & am now working with a lawyer to end a 30 year marriage. I got news, it sure isn't easy going through all the paperwork......talk about anxiety attacks at trying to find all the information that the other person so kindly filed is some unhuman method. It got so the fights were so bad that I would find myself back in depression, thinking I was sick with the flu.

I also understand Tomi's relationship with her husband.......if there is a relationship that can be tolerated, it really is better to keep it going. I know it is going to be hard not to have someone around me after 30 years.....but I had to weigh out my options. My pdoc is right, by divorcing, I am trading one set of stressors for another.....I know this......I also know that I am 52 & remember what it was like for my Mother when my father died & no one was around to help her do the things that were needed let alone the companionship.

It all goes into the pro's & con's of the situation. It sounds like you have thought through your situation rather completely & have a plan set out.....the only thing about putting off action is that sometimes when it comes time to take the action, it is easier to NOT.

Take care of yourself & do what you need to do for you best interest,
Debbie