I find this post interesting.....I wasn't breast fed & it had NO EFFECT at all on me....I have no missing desire for snuggling or closeness.......I had my daughter & had no intention of breast feeding.....I was in the middle of finishing my degree & starting a career......it was the last thing on my mind.

Sometimes I don't think we have these feelings until someone puts them into our thoughts & makes us feel that's how we are supposed to feel.

My thinking here goes along with the treatment I had at an eating disorders treatment center.....where the T there insisted that I had to get in touch with my inner child......there is no inner child in here & there never was......but he sure was trying to push into my head that there had to be. Not every thought that is presented in therapy is necessarilly appropriate for each person. I am not saying that some people may not be effected in these ways, but when therapy starts to tell everyone that they have to feel a certain way because something specific happened in their past......is wrong. Not every person reacts the same way to the same things. That is why psychology is so complex is because each person is an individual & relates in their indiidual way to the things that happen in their lives.

It's important for us to make sure that the things that are suggested in therapy really DO apply to us & not just take it as fact. If it does apply....great, then you have something to work on.....but if we are just accepting it because it was suggested, then it's not so great.

It's a touch situation because if we knew ourselves, we wouldn't be in therapy in the first place......but we have to be in touch with ourselves enough to know whether what is being suggested actually applies to us or not......can you imagine if we accept everything we are told as truth.......we would be in an even bigger mess than when we start therapy.

Just wanting to make this point also because it's important to understand that not all theories apply to everyone.......It's our responsibility to determine if they apply to us or NOT & not blindly accept everything that is thrown at us. Accept what does & throw away what doesn't & don't feel forced to have to feel something you don't feel.

Put the trigger on this because I am sure my feelings on therapy will trigger some here.