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Old Feb 22, 2010, 09:30 AM
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Originally Posted by puzzclar View Post
I did start to realize what was going on before the SI.

I realized that I had been alone before I had done it and, a little discouraged.

I just got in that "mode" where things just got to bad.

The Menatal pain is just becoming to much to deal with, and I don't know how to express that part of all of this.

I just seem to get stuck in the mode where SI is the only way out.

I sort of know how I get in the "modes" but I don't know how to stay away from that part of me. I want that part of me away, just don't know how.

One another issue I did tell another and it's gotten me a little stressed, since they where not a professional. I think that might have led to the mode, but I just don't know.
Yes, this is very good insight. Now when you sense this scenario you can try different things to change the outcome. When you start to feel alone and discouraged you can try some different things here.

You need to tell your T that your pain is getting to be too much so that you 2 can work on this.

Getting stuck where you think that there is only one way is when you take a deep breath and take 3 steps back out of that corner. Look around, you left that tight corner. There are more than one option if you give yourself space. (See my signature here?)

You want to distance yourself from a part of you? This would also be a good topic for therapy because one of the goals of therapy is to discover all of your parts and work on the ones which are causing you distress. It never works to banish a part of yourself.

Did you feel a little vulnerable after telling that person?
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